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  • How the Hidden Dangers of Comparison are Killing Us … {and Our Daughters} : The Measuring Stick Principle

    On Wednesday, November 06 th, 2013

    When our Hope-girl came in and sat at the foot of our bed, I knew she was looking for a way to stand. “So what am I supposed to do now?” I gathered her long hair in my hands, gathered her mane all in one long strand and twisted it slow, around and around, as if I could make a rope for a girl to hold on to. “Hon, there will always be people who see the world in measuring s...

  • When You feel Like You Never Belong …

    On Friday, July 19 th, 2013

    That was it : That for all her yearning to belong – What she wanted was someone to long to be with her. … Belonging wasn’t about some club, or cool clique, or country — belonging was about Christ. Who never stopped longing to be with her…   So no matter how many days she felt lost in her  own skin, no matter how she struggled for breath in he...

  • The Ultimate Girlfriend Gift

    On Wednesday, May 08 th, 2013

    We threw stones first. I mean — after we’ve all been bloodied by stones, why not just start there? Effie Bryce sat near Nan Marlin. And Greta Vanderhoef and Darlene Finch, and 75 year-old Mrs. Margaret van Veen who led me to Jesus when I was a kid and the elderly Mrs. King who lives on the farm behind us and has brought Easter gifts to our kids for the last 16 y...

  • How to Live Through the Messy

    On Wednesday, April 03 rd, 2013

    This? This is *right* where we are at this week: She asks me how it’s going. And I have to smile. And I tell her that there are pots on the stove and crumbs on the counters and yes, wherever we are, there’s always so much good and there are always hard things. There’s the lists. And the laundry, the books and the homework and the learning. And these kids we...

  • The 1 Command that Could Resurrect the Church, Our Hurting Places & the Sisterhood of Women

    On Wednesday, March 13 th, 2013

    There’s a reason He called us His Body and not His Estate.” That’s what Tib Pearson told me. Tib with his Red Wing workboots and worn John Deere hat and hands weathered and etched like a greying cedar rail. “A Body is connected with sinew and vein —  and an estate is divided with fences and line.” He said it with his hands, the way a man of the land...

  • what it means to have the miracle of a sister

    On Tuesday, September 18 th, 2012

    Sisters make circles of time, a completing of sentences and memories and laughter, the past curving into now and you both know how it all rolls. A sister born friend, she turns all the inner worlds that won’t fit into words, into a deep knowing. From the moment I first cupped a woman child into me, I had always wanted this for her — a sister to round out her heart. A...

  • Baby Steps: Just. Do. Something.

    On Thursday, September 13 th, 2012


  • If you’ve ever been wounded by women

    On Wednesday, August 08 th, 2012

    The dark’s never bothered me much. It’s women who have scared me. Because women can haunt with shadows of their own. I don’t know what grade I was in when Alexa Richards* murmured to Judith Nolan* in the back of gym class that the whole school knew I’d likely end up in a loonie bin. But I know I vowed right then I’d hide from girls. Just hide out ...

  • When the World gets Loud & Divisive

    On Tuesday, May 22 nd, 2012

    Standing out there in the garden, all the spinach leaves offered up like bunches of bouquets there at her feet, she listened for the quiet. The corn grew in straight rows. The apple blossoms made promises. The irises unfolded bold hope. Roots would wait for rain. Seeds would be faithful to soil. The weary would wait on God. The waiting would be unwaveringly faithful to the...

  • when a man loves a woman

    On Friday, July 15 th, 2011

    I watch you in the kitchen, slicing up a pie, July evening sloping gold across your face. How do you know the moment when you love someone the most? I used to think it was that wild moment of crazy grace when you asked for forever on Reesor’s sideroad and I laughed the wonder of yes. But then the babies came with the contractions and I really did think it had to be then...

  • How Do We Really Treat Jesus?

    On Wednesday, May 18 th, 2011

    In front of Mrs. Gillie’s entire grade six classroom, Kadie Miller* said I was butt-ugly. Did you pick out your own get-up today or did your butt-ugly mama dress you? Sandy Goetz* laughed. That afternoon when the bus doors cranked open and I was finally free, I ran up our gravel lane, and Lissa Turscott* slid down her bus window and whipped a baseball at me, smacking me ...

  • How Hurting Women Can Help Each other Heal…

    On Tuesday, April 26 th, 2011

    At the gate, flying to Portland today, to speak at the Q conference (oh, if He leads, if you’d  lend this girl holding on to Jesus’ hand a few prayers, I’d be mighty grateful!) … and I’m sitting here remembering these words, and giving thanks for  friends like you:  my beautiful mama loving me deep & loving on our kids while I quietly share ...

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